Fedora hat….T-shirt by @blackgirlsrock with an inscribed photo of Donna Summer, blue jeans, leather jacket and wedged leather sneakers!
Category Archives: Carla Franklin
An ode to Spring flowers
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Spring flowers abound in the park,
Beside me my dog starts to bark,
Chasing pedals in the wind,
All around us they spin,
On a quest to chase squirrels she does embark.
Techno-Fashionista channels Dorothy from Oz!
I wore this fabulous outfit to the client site yesterday. My ensemble included a taupe colored Calvin Klein dress, a red belt, and matching “Ruby Red” pumps, by Joan & David. My red brief case is by Knomo – London. I’m so happy that Spring is finally here!
Random business musings: Man Lotion
Man Lotion – Vaseline Men
Perhaps I’m late in discovering man lotion. I saw this black container of Vaseline Intensive care on the desk of a colleague, at one of my corporate consulting clients. The bottle is a very masculine black, with white lettering. No frills or flowers…basic and bold. One pump releases lotion inside that smells of “Old Spice” mixed with musky brown bear and the smell of your dad when he got dressed up to take your mom out for a night on the town. It is the personification of “hyper-manliness” in a body & face lotion. At first I laughed at this rugged looking lotion bottle that was only a line extension of my lavender and berry scented hydrating cream. Then I thought about the brilliance behind it. This is Business Strategy 101: Market Segmentation and niche specialization by Vaseline. Man Lotion that is priced for the average consumer. Brilliant. It must be flying off the shelf. My boyfriend has always complained that regular lotion smells girlie…like berries, flowers and sugar. He usually buys the unscented brands. Well, now all of our problems are solved. Lol.
The Seven types of Cyber Abuse
Cyber Abuse is a vicious crime that occurs through digital channels
The fact that “ignorance of the law is never a defense“, doesn’t stop people from continuing to engage in online behavior that is not only unethical, but also illegal. As someone who survived and fought back against cyber stalking, I’m often invited to speak to high school and college-aged students on the topic of cyber abuse. Consistently, I find that most young people and adults who attend my talks don’t understand the full emotional and legal impact of cyber abuse. Many don’t even know all the forms that cyber abuse takes and that there are some laws on the books to protect victims from each type. Now, these laws aren’t always appropriately enforced, and most are unreasonably limited given the damage that cyber abuse does, but the laws are there nonetheless and should be used.
Typically when people discuss general online digit abuse, harassment and stalking, they use the term “cyberbullying”.
Stop cyberstalking
This is a misnomer. Cyber abuse the most appropriate term to describe crimes and other legal violations that are directed at individuals and committed through digital channels including cell phone services and the internet.
Cyberbullying, like Cyberharassment and Cyberstalking, is a type of cyber abuse. Specifically, it is cyber abuse committed by young people (age 17 and under) again young people, while Cyberharassment and Cyberstalking are commited by adults. Cyberharassment may include false accusations, monitoring, making threats, identity theft, damage to data or equipment, the solicitation of minors for sex, or gathering information in order to harass (Wikipedia). Repeated patterns of cyber abuse against a victim by an adult constitutes cyberstalking.
Cyber abuse can though any digital means, not just online. Victims are damaged mentally, financially and professionally to a degree that is far more severe than similar behavior done in person, by postal mail or by phone. Why? Because online and digital communication is global and available to anyone 24 hours a day. Ignoring a perpetrator’s is not always a solutions for victims, especially in cases where this is on going intention to intimidate, alarm, humiliate and irrevocably damage the victim. Understanding the primary types of cyber abuse, and associated legal consequences, can help empower the victim and his/her loved ones to fight back appropriately and put an end to the behavior. Below are the seven high-level forms of cyber abuse and the legal consequences associated with them. Over the coming months, I will be blogging about the real impact of each type of cyber abuse and how victims can empower themselves.
| TYPES | DEFINITION | LEGAL CONSEQUENCES |
| Cyberbullying |
•Cyberbullying is digital abuse committed against young people (17 and younger), by young people
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•Suspension from school and athletic teams
•Juvenile arrest
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| Cyberstalking/ Cyberharassment |
•Cyberharassment – a form of cyberbullying committed by adults (18 and older)
•Cyberstalking – repeated acts of cyberharassment
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•Civil lawsuits
•Criminal arrest for harassment, stalking, impersonation, defamation
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| Phone / Caller ID spoofing |
•Caller ID spoofing is the practice of causing the telephone network to display a number on the recipient’s Caller ID display that is not that of the actual originating station
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•Criminal arrest for harassment, stalking, impersonation, identity theft, fraud
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| Sexting |
•Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages and/or photographs, primarily between mobile phones.
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•Copyright infringement
•Criminal arrest for distribution of pornography, child pornography, invasion of privacy
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| Revenge Porn |
•A form of cyber-rape that involves the distribution of sexually explicit photos and/or videos of an individual (either real or photoshopped) on the Internet without permission.
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•Civil lawsuits
•Criminal arrest for harassment, stalking, impersonation
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| Internet “bombing”/ bombarding |
•Creation of 100s to 1000s of harassing and defamatory online postings in an effort to negatively alter a victim’s search engine results and deliberately cause mental anguish, job loss and misconceptions
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•Civil lawsuits
•Criminal arrest for harassment, stalking, defamation
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| Digital burglary |
•Illegal entry into or access of another person’s online account
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•Criminal arrest for invasion of privacy, impersonation, identity theft, fraud
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Ratchet or Refined: Keeping it real while panhandling
It takes all types to make the world go round. This is probably why life in the microcosm of New York City seems to zoom by at the speed of light. There are literally all types of people here. In general, I prefer people who are consistently pragmatic and painfully honest. Why? Because that is my approach to life. There is no need to “beat around the bush”. Life is too short. For the most part, my friends and colleagues always know where I stand. Now, I do believe that maintaining civility and kindness are important when walking the path of honesty and pragmatism.
Given this, I truly appreciated the honestly of a panhandler that I passed the other day. He wanted money for “weed”, and his sign said as much. Disclaimer: I do not support or condone drug usage or raising funds through panhandling purchase drugs. That being said, I’m not here to condemn these activities either. Who am I to judge? I do respect the honesty…the realness, if you will, of this man’s approach in raising funds. There was no need to lie, or pretend on his part. He “kept it real”, and was civil while doing so. So, what do you think friends? Is keeping it real while panhandling Ratchet or Refined?
Ratchet or Refined? I spy something big and furry…
As I commuted through Manhattan last week on the subway, I spotted a gentleman in a white, faux fur coat. It isn’t often that you see a man in a fur in Manhattan, especially one that is faux and white. The color contrast of the coat against his underlying royal blue shirt was amazing. My interested in his fashion statement was piqued by his confident, nonchalant “hipster” vibe. I wondered, “is he serious, or on his way to a themed costume event?” Where does one even get a white faux fur? Nothing about his demeanor indicated self-consciousness or any comedic intent. Homeboy was totally comfortable and indifferent/oblivious to anyone (namely me) looking at his coat…and I totally respected that. Plus, his coat in animal cruelty-free, so I had to give him credit for that also. He OWNED the look and WORKED the look (I give it 2 diva snaps and a smile). So I ask, dear friends, what do you think? Ratchet or Refined?
Stomping out cyberbullying: Submit the Documentary
I’m so excited to announce my new partnership with an anti-cyberbullying organization whose mission is to stop cyberabuse among teens and young adults.
“Submit the Documentary” is a social-digital movement, uniting educators, law makers, advocates, teens, adults and cyberbullying survivors in an effort to create positive social change. Through my work with “Submit the Documentary“, I hope to increase awareness about the damage that cyberbullying does to teens and young adults, and help improve legislation to protect those victimized by it. The video trailer above is just a preview of what’s to come and is intended to inspire dialog and debate. Stay tuned for upcoming announcements about this amazing new social movement…
That’s Public Relations
“If a young man tells his date how handsome, smart and successful he is – that’s advertising. If the young man tells his date she’s intelligent, looks lovely, and is a great conversationalist, he’s saying the right things to the right person and that’s marketing. If someone else tells the young woman how handsome, smart and successful her date is – that’s PR.”
– S.H. Simmons
Marriage equality for all!!
We are all children of the universe…we are all equal…we should all have the right to love and marry whom we choose, with equal rights and protections under the law.
The Other Side of the Rainbow... 